In a world where about 40 percent of marriages are ending in divorce it is hard not to notice those couples who are happy. But how to achieve the long lasting relationship?
Is it a recession or is missing tolerance between people, not exactly known, but the fact that people are more likely to divorce, and in the media every now and then writes about celebrity couples divorce. Therapist and an expert on relationships, Dr. Jane Greer said in Redbook magazine that successful couples connect basic principles such as honesty, respect or loyalty, but also a strong sense of belonging and respect the person. Here are a few things that happy couples connect and make a successful connection.
1. Babblement
It may seem ridiculous and silly that grown people talk softly and sweet to one another, but it’s actually healthy for a relationship. Such a manner of speaking man returns to the happy times like a carefree childhood and allows us to feel vulnerable in difficult moments of everyday busy crowded obligations. A family counselor Carolyn Perla says that couples so intimate as a different tone or words create a special bond and not share it with other people.
2. Socialize
When you pass the infatuation and couples do not spend every moment together, burning with joy, turn to your daily routine and time to socialize is shorter. Of all the factors of relationship, including loyalty and communication, during which two people performed well together is important. At least tell the results of research Howard Markman of the University of Denver. Therefore, the time spent together look like a good investment in a happy relationship or marriage.
3. Troubleshooting
The first challenge every young man’s separation from his family, but parents will always be there for any help. But the connection does not need to seek help for my mom as soon as a dispute arises or more decisions. Family counselor Judith Wallerstein believes that successful couples build relationship so as to solve problems themselves and make decisions without help from outside.
Spend quality time together
4. Connection
Although the mother does not have to discuss potential problems in this regard, it is important to have a good relationship with the family because it provides a sense of security from an early age. Dr. Greer adds that the closest connection with the marriage because it is important for the positive vibes you share with each other and transmit them further.
5. Obligations, raising children and housework
As much as women and men are equal, there will always be prettier half to perform multiple tasks at home. However, couples who are in good agreement not to take such things for granted or recorded to one another who has taken upon himself the obligations. Dr. Pearl says that most couples think that is right all the duties and responsibilities shared exactly in half, but it really is important to everyone to do their best to be happy together and would not have felt that one always has to pull over.
6. Constructive arguments
Quarrels and disputes are inevitable, but it should be known constructive quarrel and eventually draw a useful conclusion. If you belong to couples who yell, throw things, and the dura days, do not expect to celebrate the 20th wedding anniversary.
“Happy couples have learned how the arguments into an argument and eventually solve the problem instead of being put under the carpet,” she said fighting techniques of quality teacher Polly Young-Eisendrath of the University of Vermont. According to her research, it is even possible to predict whether a couple to stay together when you see how the two are fighting the first ten minutes. In stable marriages, couples know how to explain their dissatisfaction with the rules and how to fight, which eventually leads to the solving of problems to mutual satisfaction.
7. Small signs of attention
Yes, this sounds like a story from the film, but the gifts are small signs of attention and connect couples and make the connection stronger. The author of the book “Care of the Soul,” Thomas Moore says that this behavior keeps a special charm to do, especially if they are small surprises unplanned and non-important dates.
8. Humor
Humor and sense of humor is also important for the spiritual state of vapor.Psychotherapist Thomas Moore says that the couple loses connection if you lose your sense of humor and their internal jokes. He adds that the happy couples know internally joke so do not hurt or make fun of each other and in their jokes about the remarks have no place, for example, physical appearance or intelligence.
9. Seriously take your vows – ‘in good and in evil’
Regardless of whether the termination, car breakdown or illness, happy couples do not shy away from adversity, but help each other overcome the evil that befell them. Such situations are easier to overcome because the person knows that there is someone who will stay with them regardless of the difficult situation in which it is located.